Are you constantly worrying about what other people think? Are your actions guided by what you think are accepted social norms? Does the fear of not being accepted scare you into not doing things that you actually want to do?
You are not alone. Perhaps, knowing that is a solace.
And there’s help to help you in wriggling out of that worry-hole.
1.“Imitation is suicide.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
People will always tell you, In your place, I would have done it this way….if I were you, I would have behaved like that…But that’s exactly the point. I am not you. And that gives me freedom to do things exactly the way I like to do it. I cannot do it your way, or someone else’s way. What works for you will not work for me.
I think you get the drift.
Don’t bother about doing things like someone else. Food for the geese cannot be food for the gander. Do what feels right for you, go with your gut instinct.
- “Remind yourself that it’s okay not to be perfect.” – Anonymous
You don’t have to be perfect all the time. You don’t have to get yourself evaluated by others. It’s okay to commit mistakes, learn from them and correct them. You don’t have to beat yourself up over it because you think you might have let someone down. Most of the times, it is this fear of not being perfect that makes you worry about other people’s reactions.
Make mistakes. Learn from them. That’s the only way to grow. Don’t bother with being perfect.
- “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain
Herd mentality is for the cows.
Not for you.
And if you are simply siding with the majority each time, going with the herd, you must introspect if that is who you really are. In the end, life is not about pleasing everybody. Approval can be comforting, but just because people don’t approve, it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. It just means that you are strong enough to stand up for your point of view.
You are unique. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
- “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” — Bernard Baruch
Everyone does not have your best interest at heart. People who care for you will love you irrespective of what you do. And the others will find faults with whatever you do. Why should people who mind so much, even matter to you? Think about it.
Most of the times, people whose opinions we held in high regard, move out of our lives even before we realise it. It would be such a shame to base your actions on the opinions of such people!
- “Stop making assumptions -People aren’t thinking about you all the time” – Anonymous
People have other things on their mind. And most often, people are busy thinking about themselves. Unless what you do directly affects someone, they are least likely to be spending their time thinking a great deal about you.
So stop making assumptions!
What is the point in worrying yourself sick over other people’s opinions which are practically non-existent?
Anyways, people keep changing their point of view too often, what doesn’t appeal to them today, might appeal to them a few months later. What’s the fun in trying to keep up with their opinions?
- “Trust your own instincts. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.” – Billy Wilder.
When you take too much advice from others, you will ultimately suffer. It is you who will have to face the consequences of your actions, not people who advised you. Once choices are made, you will be stuck with them forever.
Imagine marrying someone because your friend advised you to. If the decision turns out to be wrong, guess who will be stuck in a bad relationship all their lives?
So trust yourself. Trust your instincts more than you trust others. It helps you to be more responsible for your actions. And if you do make mistakes, you will have to blame no one else.
- “No one knows you better than you know yourself.”- Madonna Ciccone
You know your strengths and weaknesses better than anyone else. You know what your dreams are. You alone know how passionate you are about them. No one else can understand your dreams and passions. No one else can be as invested in your life as you are.
Then, why trust anyone other than yourself? It’s your journey and you alone know what your struggle is all about.
- “Life is short, and it is up to you to make it sweet.” -Sarah Louise Delany
Life is too short to be spent worrying about what others think. Think of a year from now. Think of five years. Will these opinions still matter to you? Will they affect your life in any way? If not, then why are you worrying so much? Well, even if it does, what if you are dead a year from now? Isn’t the idea of dying with unfulfilled dreams a lot worse than worrying what other people think?
Make your life sweet. Achieve your dreams. Live your life to the hilt!
In conclusion, I’d say, worrying is such a waste of time. There’s so much to do. So much to see. So much to be happy for. This worrying business,ain’t getting you anywhere!
So stop worrying, and trust yourself!